Living ‘Bold, Beautiful & Brilliant’ After 50: AGG Night Out: a Podcast, Round 2

It's time for another "Ageless Glamour Girls Night Out: A Podcast," part of our LIVE Podcast Series, which debuted recently. And now - Round 2 of this Friday Night Affair, where phenomenal women 50+ come together to laugh, share, reflect, and celebrate life’s next chapters. In this episode, you'll meet 4 AGGs - who open up about their ageless-aging journeys with honesty, humor, and heart.  Among the stars - a bold, beautiful, and brilliant 81-year-old powerhouse who enjoys dating and embracing life. Think of this as a virtual Happy Hour with your girlfriends. An Ageless Chatfest! Whether you joined us LIVE for the original show on the Ageless Glamour Girls YouTube channel or you're just tuning in now, we’re so glad you’re here. And don't forget to hit that SUBSCRIBE button and share the love with your friends - for the podcast and the AGG YouTube channel. CHEERS - to Healthy Aging and Joyful Living, Luvvies! Reconnect soon!

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Carol Williams is passionate about living fully - from globetrotting and teaching Zumba to playing pickleball and enjoying the theater. After a 40-year career at Blue Cross Blue Shield Chicago, she retired to North Carolina, where she continues to embrace health, wellness, and fashion while challenging age-related stereotypes as a C3 Leader with the Chicago Conservation Department. Caol is passionate about living agelessly, while embracing health and wellness, navigating the world of relationships, and staying up-to-date with fashion trends that "keep you looking ageless." 

At 63, Antoinette Roberson is an Accountant/Project Manager, proud mom to her son Jeremy, and a woman of faith who lives each day as a gift from God. A music lover and dancer, she inspires others with her joy for life. Recently diagnosed with breast cancer, her prayers were answered when follow-up tests showed it was gone - a true testimony of faith and resilience.

Jeanne Kelly is an Emmy Award-winning television producer with 35+ years of experience in creative direction, production, and branded content. She has produced for Lifetime’s The Balancing Act, Conde Nast, and major networks - including ABC, CBS, Bravo, Discovery, and The Travel Channel. Her credits also include campaigns for MasterCard, Nestle, and Purina. This year, she celebrates turning 60.

Marsha Curtis-Jones is a musician and educator in the state of Kentucky. 

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SPEAKER_05 2:05

Hello, happy Friday, everyone. TGIF in the house. Wood, would, would. I'm so excited because last week I went live and uh it was the first Friday of the month, right? And uh I said, okay, I was talking to it. I said, okay, every first Friday of the month, we're gonna go live with an Ageless Glamour Girls night out. Woo! Okay, and that was last Friday. So this is not the first Friday of the month. This is the second Friday of the month, and here I am. But I'm so happy to be here because you know how much I love Ageless Chat Fest, and you know how much I love bringing phenomenal ageless glamour girls. They're all phenomenal, um, to to your door, to your to your view, to your life. And um, I am Marquita Curtis Haynes, I'm the CEO and the founder of the lifestyle brand, Ageless Glamour Girls. Our um tagline is bold, beautiful, brilliant, and we celebrate, embrace, empower, and entertain all the things women age 50 plus on what we call this ageless aging journey. I am so glad that you're here. We have a podcast, which is right here. We have a book. More on that later. Ageless Glamour Girls Reflections on Aging. We have a private Facebook group, um, the Ageless Cafe. Of course, we have our YouTube channel, and uh, we're on TikTok, we're in other places. And I'm just happy and pleased as Punch that we have this community because you know, life can get tricky. As we know, life can get crazy. Oh, I hate using that word, but I just used it. But uh, yeah, but you know, everything is going on, and as you get older, stuff starts getting kind of tricky, tricky, tricky. So it's good that we have a place to come and just let our hair down, uh, relax, and just do our thing and meet other wonderful women. With that said, I have um three wonderful women um on the show.

SPEAKER_04 4:04

Woo! There they are right there.

SPEAKER_05 4:06

And just so you know, we may bring in a couple of more during the uh the course of the show. And I was gonna, they sent me some brief bios, and let me tell you, I'm so impressed. I these women are just phenomenal. And um, I just personally know one on here, and we'll we'll go ahead and start with Jeannie since I just mentioned her. Jeannie, Jean Kelly, um, she was my boss, and I was just telling the ladies earlier, isn't that very cool when you're still friends with your boss?

SPEAKER_04 4:31

A former boss is like so um, so Jeannie, tell us who you are, Jeannie, and welcome to the show. Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 4:41

Thank you, and thank you for having me, Marquita. Um, you know how much I adore you. And I was there when this brainchild of yours started, right? It started out as a little kernel, and you you you you massaged it and watered it and and just uh brought it to fruition. So I'm so proud of you for that because it was it was a little seedling way back when, and now you're in your full glory.

SPEAKER_05 5:05

So that's right. You were there from the beginning, opening up your home and a couple of your friends' homes. It's like we're recording this, and yes, one of these days we're gonna we're gonna be big one of these days.

SPEAKER_00 5:17

Yes. But Marquita and I both have a background in television, and we worked together um on a couple of shows that aired on Lifetime, and that's how I met the beautiful beautiful Marquita and I had the pleasure of working with her. We both also have news backgrounds. So um, you know, parallel pathing, she and I, I worked for NBC, she worked for CBS. So we have that news background, that journalistic background in in our blood, and but we were also producers, so not always as so comfortable in front of the camera, a little bit more behind the scenes, but um and we were able to bring people really good stories, whether it was health or finance, um, just everyday living. So I was really um grateful to have met Marquita when I started my career um at the company we both were with. And I'm I'm proud to say we're still friends, um, even though I don't get to work with her every day. And um, yeah, that's a little bit about me, television stuff. Television stuff. That's television stuff.

SPEAKER_04 6:16

Thank you, Jeannie, for being here. And let's see, I guess we'll go, let's see, Carol. Carol, you're on that beautiful pink.

SPEAKER_06 6:24

Hi, thank you for having me. I am so excited to be here. I have an unusual background. I worked for a healthcare company uh for about 40 some years, and it was a pretty intense career. And once I left, I left. I mean, it was like all behind me. So I was so excited, and I decided I was gonna teach Zumba. Zumba. And I did that for a number of years, and that was a lot of fun. Uh, and now I'm just enjoying life. I mean, it's amazing. So uh I am thankful for being here and so excited for the conversation.

SPEAKER_05 7:09

Yes, yes. Thank you for being here, Carol. I have to tell you guys, Carol and I, um her handle on Instagram, Instagram is uh fabulous, fabulous. Flipping fabulously, flipping fabulously, flipping fabulously. Yes, I slid into her DM about a year ago, I think. And so that's how she and I have never met, but uh back in the day, right, Carol, there weren't that many um ages, you know, um accounts for you know celebrating older women, but now there are a gazillion of them. But we're still here, I love it, I love it. Um thank you so much, Carol. I appreciate you so much. Okay, and we have Antoinette, whom I met for the first time today. We have a mutual friend, Charles, who edits this the show and who's producing this little thing. I'm like, I need help. I need help.

SPEAKER_02 8:04

So Antoinette. Well, hey, it's a pleasure to be here. And uh Charles and I go way back. We uh high school and college, so we have connected, reconnecting the last what six months, and we've been doing it, we've been doing it up. So I am from Dallas, Texas, home of the mighty Dallas Cowboys. I have one son, um, and I am an accountant/slash project manager by nature. But three years ago I left corporate America. I work for my home, I work with selected clients, and uh I love it. I'm I'm really living my life now, you know, um, not the stress of corporate America, and um I love the Lord, so I am on a mission for the Lord. I am now you know telling my story and helping people, inspiring people. Um, you know, I'm transparent now, you know. Uh I want people to know. Um I have a broadcast podcast that I did with um someone and I shared my life up to this point. And uh I get calls and they say, I can't believe it. What you wouldn't know, but my message is God's message. If you have faith and you believe, we know faith without work is what dead, so you have to put in the work, and I have put in the work and now I'm reaping the benefits of my labor. So I'm excited. I'm uh known on Facebook as the woman in the mirror. Oh, I love that. You hear a lot from me of the coming up uh months and years. Uh, like I say, I'm enjoying life, but uh I put God in the forefront and uh He driving, He's driving this bus.

SPEAKER_05 9:50

I love it, I love it. Living your best ageless life, as we say, yes, feel good, feel good, yeah. And as we know, this ageless life, you know, we we we we're all you know, we try to do our things and everything, but um, sometimes you know the clouds come along. Oh, yeah, part of life, that's part of life. Yes, but let me ask you guys a question. What has been your biggest, say, aha moment along your ageless aging journey? You know, was it when you were 60, you know, whatever? Um, and you're like, oh, oh, oh. Uh let's see, Carol, you want to take that?

SPEAKER_07 10:26

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_06 10:33

I love it. It's Raha moment is I I guess it's now, to tell you the truth. Uh, I went back up maybe about 12 years ago. I was married for a very long time, and my husband passed away, right? Uh, but the crazy thing about this guy, this guy said, hey, let's move to North Carolina, let's just go to warmer weather, let's just do uh our things, let's just have the second life, right? And and um, so I did all of that. I moved away from my family. Uh and the long story short, and he passed away less than two years after I got here. My moment was I'm here by myself. Oh dependent on me and my capabilities, learning a new life, learning a new me, um, getting rid of that partner, standing on my own two feet. And that is my aha moment, is that now you are faced with you. What are you gonna do about it? Are you going to just sit back and say, oh, for me, uh, I can't do this by myself? Or are you gonna pick pull on your big girl's chanties and are you gonna go out there and are you gonna face what's in front of you and create a new you? Girl. Now that has been my biggest challenge is looking at myself as the woman in the mirror. Either you're gonna lay down and wall in it and feel sorry for yourself, or you're gonna go out there and create a life and embrace what's in front of you. And I decide to embrace what was in front of me. And it's I haven't turned around yet, it's been amazing, and I cannot really tell you that each day I wake up, I see a new me. I find things about myself I never realized, and I'm so surprised when I do something that's shocking to me, and I just go for it. I love it, girl.

SPEAKER_05 12:56

You gave me chill. You are freaking amazing. It's like I love it. You reinvent yourself, you just go for it. No pity party here. You know, it's that those survivor instincts, they just kick in, and that comes with age. And speaking of age, we're gonna get to that in a minute. Oh my god, okay. Uh, let's see. Uh Jeannie, your big that was beautiful, Carol. Thank you so much. Thank you. That was amazing. That was amazing.

SPEAKER_00 13:23

Uh, Miss Jeannie. Yeah, well, so this year is gonna be a milestone for me. Um, and and uh I'm gonna be 60. And um, you know, for me, I recently got remarried. And so that was um my first love coming back from a very long way away, and and to be able to be reunited and find that partner again who I thought I had lost. And I will say, you know, in these times, and you know, I'm I still work for a corporation. I'm not on my own yet, um, but I think the winds of change are coming in that. So I'm not sure that the aha is completely uh matriculated.

SPEAKER_03 14:06

Right.

SPEAKER_00 14:07

I think it's uh in transition. I'm really um grateful that I found um this partner again, and I'm trying to find joy in that. And and if I could give a plug, the show I work for is called the Balancing Act, and it literally is a balance. It is finding that work-life balance to not you know give in to the man and to try to really balance out where I find my joy and and honor you know, my partner and what that looks like. And um, he's a bit of a fish out of water, so he's not from this country. So that's a tricky situation where he came from a very um rich full life, and and now his lifelines are me.

SPEAKER_03 14:50

Right, he's in Jeannie's world now.

SPEAKER_00 14:52

He's in my world, it's not a bad place to be, it's different. So I don't think the definitive uh aha has happened. I think I'm a work in progress. I think I'm coming into it and I'm embracing it. Um and looking forward to my 60th. I'm the youngest of a big family, so in my brain, I'm always gonna be the baby, even though this baby's heading into 60. So uh yeah, it's it's it's it's transitional.

SPEAKER_05 15:20

I love it. And and and I've met your husband. I was at their wedding, a beautiful seaside wedding on the beach. Oh my god, it was so sweet. And I just love her husband. Just love her husband. So, yeah, Jeannie, and uh, so yeah, that big uh yeah, circle that you'll be uh that milestone 60. That's sweet, sweet 60. Yeah, that's you're coming into it, baby. You're coming into it. Thank you so much. Now, did we uh so we talked to everybody about that, didn't we? The aha moment. Um, thank you guys for sharing that. Now, I before we go any further, I have to what'd you say? Oh, you Antoinette? You forgot me, dear. Oh, I'm sorry. You know what? Because I'm thinking of that conversation we had a few minutes ago. Thank you, Antoinette.

SPEAKER_02 16:03

I think we should go alphabetical order, don't you?

SPEAKER_07 16:06

No, no, no, so no, really.

SPEAKER_02 16:09

Um, my uh mama happened uh less than three weeks ago. Oh, I was supposedly diagnosed with bike breast cancer, and I had to tell the story because it's just a testimony, I'm gonna make it short. Um, they found something last year, but I refused to go back because I said they just want my insurance money, right?

SPEAKER_01 16:29

Right.

SPEAKER_02 16:30

Well, I changed my doctors, and so she said, Antoinette, if I was you, I would go to give you peace of mind. So I said, Okay, I you know, monstered up the whatever, you know, we're gonna deal with this thing, right? So I go, and they were to do the second uh part, which to kind of get a more uh defined look and so forth. So she did the exam and she says, Um, don't put on your gown. I'll be right back. I'm going to see the radiologist. So I'm sitting there and I'm going, Well, are y'all gonna talk about me? Don't you think you should take me with you? So I sit there, 15 minutes seemed like an hour and 15 minutes. I hadn't eaten because I had other tests that morning. So I just began to pray. I say, you know, that song uh Lord, don't move my mountain, but give me the strength to climb. And she came back in the room and she says, I can get news. And I'm thinking, is that that story where I got good and bad? Which one do you want first? She kept her hand up like this, and she says, Whatever they saw is completely gone. And my mind just and all I remember, you know, ladies, y'all know they do that gown to the front. Mine went, ah so wow, I know it was in slow-mo when things that were coming out of her mouth. There was nothing new, but anyway, I'm still on high from that. I know it, girl, because uh, you know, we prepared for things we say. It's like some you know somebody's gonna die, but when they really die, you like, oh, they gone, right? Well, it was like I'm sitting there and I was just saying, she comes in here and they say, you know what I'm gonna do, I'm just gonna take it and do what I need to do, right? But it might end up being a testimony because I have no idea what's not there now that was there before. Well, we're gonna give God our praises right now. That's right.

SPEAKER_05 18:31

That's right.

SPEAKER_02 18:31

Well, I tell people if I had my camera, because I'll videotape anything, but I said if I did it, if it gown flew open, so be it.

SPEAKER_07 18:40

Right, right, right.

SPEAKER_02 18:41

But that was my highest moment. I'm still high on that right now.

SPEAKER_05 18:44

Oh, I'm so oh that's that's great news, girl. That that's that's that's all of our fears, you know. Yes, and um it it really is, and I'm so glad. As my late mother-in-law used to say, the first time she said it after I had gone undergone some surgery, and she and I were on the phone, she's like, Marquita, I'm so glad you're coming back this way. Now, mind you, she was in St. Louis, I was in New York, and I said, Mama Haynes, I'm I'm not coming to St. Louis anytime soon. And she's like, No, coming back this way means you're feeling better. Oh my god. I'm like, okay, so so that's why I'm so glad that you're coming back this way. Thank you. Oh, yes, yes. Thanks for sharing sharing that. Thank you so much. Yes, and um, yeah, because you don't know, you hear about other women going through stuff, other people, and you just you know, you you, you know, if you're me, it's like, oh gosh, I wonder, I wonder how I would react. And you just never know until you are confronted with something, something right in your life, you know. Yeah. Um, we were talking before the cameras started rolling about our ages and uh some how some women just shot her from the mountaintops, and um, and others, others, um, you know, like go Google it if you want to know my age. But we have to talk about the age. Now, Jeannie just told us that she will be 60 in December. Right? December, but oh November, and I should know that. Know that, Jeannie. Okay, now oh you extra cut pink cupcakes. She loves pink, the color pink. Um, so um, Carol, Carol, did you say your age? I see it in your bio. Right. No, no, not Carol. Yeah, no, um, yo, Antoinette. Yeah, yes. I'm sorry, let's go to Antoinette first because Carol is a prize. We're gonna save her for last. So we're gonna go to Antoinette. You're 63 and a half.

SPEAKER_02 20:37

I'll be 64, January 27th. Wow, I am that is one birthday I'm gonna be happy to celebrate.

SPEAKER_05 20:45

Oh gosh, I love it. I love it. The 60s, the sweet 60s. I know when you're when you're young, you know, you see people in their 60s and 70s, you're like, those are old people, you know, they're old people, yeah. But uh what it's like then when you get that age, it's like, oh, I'm old people. Yeah, okay, we are gonna get to Carol now. Carol, Carol, we were shocked earlier. We were just shocked. Very shocked, and she kind of slipped it out, and I'm like, Oh my god, OMG. So, Carol, you want to tell us about your good fortune?

SPEAKER_06 21:18

You know what? Uh, my handle on uh IG Instagram is flipping fabulously, and the reason why I kind of did that was because I look at age as I've been a blessed, and I can tell you uh I'm 81 years old, and being 81 years old, I want people to know that aging is not what they you see on television. Aging is not those commercials that they show people in rocking chairs, aging is not. What society wants us to believe. Aging is it is it is surprising, it is freeing, it is absolutely great. Because you learn so much about yourself at this point. You know your boundaries, you know your values, you know things that you're gonna take, you're not gonna take. You you understand the blessings that you have received over the years, and you can do all kinds of things. I just got back from Paris and I had a wonderful time. Guess what? I didn't worry about children the house. None of those things that we are settled with as we at a younger age. So um, and I have to tell you this story, and this is real funny because it's about aging, right? So I went out there on uh the thread, which is a part of Instagram, right? And I made a short video, it wasn't even more than 10 seconds.

SPEAKER_05 23:10

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_06 23:10

I love it.

SPEAKER_04 23:11

Next thing are you on TikTok too? I'm sorry, I interrupted. I interrupted your flow. I'm sorry, go ahead, go ahead.

SPEAKER_06 23:17

I am born on a date, and I am 80 years old, and it is fantastic. Can you believe that somebody wants to date me at 80?

unknown 23:26

I love it.

SPEAKER_06 23:28

I got 5k on that 10 second videos because people do not believe that you're 80 and you're going on a date. They thought it was the most amazing thing that they have ever heard of, and it was hysterical to me.

SPEAKER_05 23:48

Wow, now that is amazing. I'm I'm looking um when you revealed your age. I see Phyllis in the in the chat said, Praise God. It's like girl, yes, date, date, a hot day. That you need to be on that show, that ABC, that show about the dating.

SPEAKER_06 24:07

Girl, golden. Let me tell you how prejudice. I should say that I have to be real careful with that. You see that several people are. You'd be surprised how many, how many applications stop at 70. So I went out there to try to get on the show, right? It stopped at 75 years old. I was too old. So look, that's how much fun it is, being.

SPEAKER_05 24:42

Oh my gosh. So you know what? I was talking to someone earlier. I'm like, my um, one of the shows in the future is going to be about the dating thing because you know, there's a lot happening out there about the dating thing. See, see, Charles, had I known about that part, I would have brought her for that for the dating show too. I'm gonna I'm gonna have to bring you back because oh my goodness. Oh my goodness. Right, right, right, right, right. Because there's so much, there's so much right now about dating, and and you know, and then one day you see that marriage is down, and next day you see that it is up, you know. Next one day you see that gray divorce is up, then next day you see that it's down. Uh, you just gotta do you. You just have to do you. And uh oh, uh oh, Charles. Oh you had to come look.

SPEAKER_04 25:34

I thought I thought Charles, I thought you were gonna contribute to the show.

SPEAKER_06 25:40

David is a lot of fun, and we can talk about that whatever you want. Oh, girl, yes, yes, we have to, yes.

SPEAKER_05 25:47

I might say beauty is ageless. That is so true. Right, it is, it is. Thank you, thank you so much. And uh speaking of being ageless, um, when you mentioned talked about your trip, um, Carol, I remember hearing something about two or three years ago, how you know a lot of people will go travel, they wait till they're gonna retire. When I retire, I'm gonna travel the world, I'm gonna go on a cruise around the world and everything. And but then you started thinking, it's like, um, suppose you know, my hips or my knees or whatever is not working properly. You know, how am I gonna get up and down the boats and all of that stuff, right? And so that's why I was like, okay, maybe you should travel when you're younger. But I admire that you're doing all of that at a later age, right? And so um, I'm just curious as to what you ladies do, because you see all the studies, you have to move, you have to move your body, and strength training is the key, you know. I mean, cardio is great too, but strength training because the muscles is no joke, you know. We get we have the flexibility, the mobility, you know, when you think about it, we're we're squatters, we have to squat for the rest of our lives as women, you know, and so it's it's important to do all of that stuff. So, how do you ladies, what are your thoughts on um what is it called? Siriaka. I see Siriaka is there, and Siriaca is uh one of the co-authors in our book, Ageless Glamour Girl. She's in the chat there. She wrote that Beauty is Ageless, and when she submitted her chapter, that was the first time I heard that phrase, um, not about ageless, aging, living, but but healthy, thriving, or something like that. Um a lifespan. Yes, hell, a healthy lifespan. So, what are you ladies doing to increase your lifespan? Jeannie.

SPEAKER_00 27:35

Okay, well, um, Carol shared pre-broadcast that she uh teach taught Zumba for a while. And Carol, I will tell you that I'm a jazzer sizer and I have been jazzersizing for many, many years. So jazzy Jeannie. So I did ballet when I was very young, and so anything that's music based, I love. So throughout my whole life, I've done something that had music to it. You know, back in the day it was step aerobics and all that, but I do jazz or size. I will confess, a few weeks ago, I did two Zumba classes, and now my L5 has flared, y'all. So I've been on the exercise ball, I've been doing my stretches. So my hips apparently do lie. Because you're killing me. So I'm not gonna be Zumba in too much. I'm gonna stick with my low impact jazzy, but for sure I do weights. I do my low impact jazzy because of my my back is bothering me a little bit. But um, and that has a little bit of strength, it has strength training in it, so it's weights in it, it has the resistance band. It really is, it has been my love for a really long time. Yes. Um, it's been around a long time. And yes, Marquita would see that I would run into the audio booth or the restroom when we were at the studio, put on my jazzy clothes, of which I have on right now, still, um, and run out the door to get to class. These days I do it online, but I have my mat, I have my little exercise setup or my roller, my my weights, my different types of weights. So that's where I find uh my my joy. I I I anything that has music, I will enjoy it and try. And you know, if you looked at my name and read it, it would be Gene Kelly. And I have been known to also sing and dance in the rain, although I can't really tear it, carry a tune. But I will try to sing. So for me, that's what I do, and I I'm still doing it, even though you know I'm I can't jump around like I think. Although in that Zumba class, Carol, I thought I could, and my hips went to the left too. I was like, this is uh maybe I'm I'm a little I need to tone it down. So that's what I do.

SPEAKER_05 29:43

Oh, I love that. Okay, yes, hey, I can attest to her to her Zumba skills.

SPEAKER_00 29:48

Yes, but I also walk on the beach, I live by the beach, so I do walking as well, just being outside in nature and anything like that. Um, riding my little bicycle, all that kind of stuff.

SPEAKER_05 29:58

It's crucial, crucial, Antoinette.

SPEAKER_02 30:02

Sure. Well, Jeannie Mines is not as professional as yours. I do my own thing, I dance to I put on my music at six, seven o'clock in the morning, and I move. You may see me moonwalking. I do it all. I put on rap, I put on, so I just move. My doctor said, just move. So I created my own routine. I have on this jacket, but I have Michelle Obama arms.

SPEAKER_05 30:28

Oh, yes. You you let me pull my sleeves down because my arms are yes, I can't.

SPEAKER_02 30:36

I started by my way.

SPEAKER_00 30:37

I have a great routine to that. I have a great routine to that.

SPEAKER_02 30:40

I do my own thing. It's I I crack myself up because I don't know what I'm doing. You know, sometimes I have to grab that knee, but moonwalking, I can do it. I can do it.

SPEAKER_05 30:50

Wow, yeah, yeah. I would be on the floor and after the second step, maybe the first. I'm just keeping it.

SPEAKER_02 30:56

You just gotta move. It's no mama reading.

SPEAKER_05 30:59

I'm gonna have to share my story of one of these days.

unknown 31:03

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_07 31:04

Okay, Carol, we already need okay.

SPEAKER_06 31:08

So I told I was teaching Zuma up to the age of 75. And so you really yes, I went to teach Zoom all through before COVID, COVID, and online after that. And what I discovered was my recovery time wasn't as great as I would want to. It would take me the rest of the afternoon to recover. But basically, my everyday routine is I do a lot of stretching, and I have uh I'm lucky and fortunate enough to have a trainer. And the trainer uh actually uh comes to my house, and what we do is uh weight training, we do stretching, and we do uh flexing. How how many times a week? Uh twice a week.

SPEAKER_05 32:04

Twice twice. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 32:05

Um and I go to stretch class uh on Mondays and Wednesdays, and Tuesday and Thursday after trainer, and on Thursday I go line dancing. Wow, that's right, yes, and that's the key. And then in the meantime, your question is what we do for that is that uh it doesn't take you to go to gym, but social uh activities, uh social life is a part of what else keeps you young. Yes, that we're coming to that, yes, and with people, and um kids might not like this, but I also like to go to bars and sit out and have a good time and meet people there because actually most of the people they are very happy. They're out there for a good time, uh, they're out there to have fun, there is trivia out there, there's bingo out there. There is a lot of things that you can do, and it's mental exercise. You gotta keep that in mind too. Physical keeps you in shape, it allows you to get out of the bed and complete your everyday activity, but you gotta keep that mental part of it. So staying happy and being mentally strong, socializing, intermingling with other individuals is just important.

SPEAKER_05 33:35

That is so true. And a a study came out recently about um the thing that you that we should all be doing here again to help stave off dementia and keep that that that mental um those mental genes going is um volunteering, volunteering, and you know, and yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 33:54

I do that, I do that too. You're right, you're right.

SPEAKER_05 33:59

And and there's so much out there too about everybody's living longer, right? Everybody's living longer, and uh oh, sorry, everybody's living longer, and um, and so you see, I don't know if you guys are part of this whole movement about you know people just taking all of these supplements, they're doing this and doing that to extend their lives. And uh, see, on my level, I'm just trying to do basic stuff, um, you know, weight training and uh trying to cut back. And um, one of these days I'm gonna get on some uh GLP ones. I'm just saying. But Antoinette, I thought about you with doing your own thing because um I have the Ageless Cafe, it's a private group on Facebook, for you know, the Ageless Glamour Girls group, and I'm forever posting different videos in there from different women and sometimes men, you know, different doing different things. Oh, do this for your hands and do this for your legs, and that's what I do on a regular basis. It's like what am I gonna have today? I'm like, Oh, I think I'll do this lady's thing today. But my husband's like, Okay, you know, you you have to be consistent, you know, pick something and we'll do it together. But yeah, it is tricky for me. I've been uh yeah, I've been fat all of my life, and uh oh well, actually, when I turned 12 or 13, I was really skinny up until then. But yeah, but I I do I do I do a lot, and uh and here again it's crucial just keep on moving and getting back to what Carol just mentioned. Oh my god, find your community. You know, you have to. Oh, it's so sad. I read a story recently about the high percentage of people who live alone, especially women. They might not see anybody for two months and they're in that house by themselves. You know, they have no family, and you know, I would love to reach out to those women, and um yeah, you have to find your community, you know, be it at a church, be it at the Zumba class, um, be it at um another kind of clash, you know, um, whatever you do. Carol, of course, Carol goes to bars. I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_02 36:04

Yeah, social clubs. How is that? Is that about the way, Carol? Uh you're in North Carolina. You say, Carol, you're in North Carolina? I'm coming to visit you. I'll be there uh the month of October. Yeah, can you come to visit?

SPEAKER_01 36:18

Oh, I love that. A connection right here. I'm serious.

SPEAKER_06 36:21

I'm serious, and I'm gonna take you to bar, I'll take your social club. We can go there, we can go there. You know, we're gonna bring Jesus.

SPEAKER_01 36:27

We're gonna bring Jesus.

SPEAKER_05 36:28

We can go. It's like, don't count us out. We are here, girls.

SPEAKER_02 36:35

Oh, you're very, you're very fun. I would love you.

SPEAKER_05 36:38

Oh and on a more serious note, kind of thing, um, you know, life's challenges, um, ageism is just just in our face, um, yeah, on a on a regular basis, and on so many levels. How do you fight through that? Or um, and or what keeps you up at night? Is that one of the things that keeps you up at night? Is your finances? Is it fighting ages? Ageism, is it um, you know, your health? What's going on? Anything and besides your partner, just saying, but I read something where it says fewer people are having, so that's another story for another day. But um, anybody keep the what keeps you up at night? Wake up in the middle of the night. By the way, there's something in the ageless cafe that I just posted a couple of days ago that women swear by. Some women are swearing by. It's a little hack for if when you wake up in the middle of the night, it'll help you go back to sleep. So if you have you're not a member of the ages cafe, this bleeding plug. If you're not a member of the of the ages have cafe, get in there and see what I'm talking about. But anyway, I'm sorry, enter that. Anyone?

SPEAKER_02 37:46

Nobody was I would say that I'm being funny now, but you say what keep you up at night?

SPEAKER_05 37:49

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_02 37:50

Drinking something after eight, you go in the restroom three or four times. Girl, that that's the truth about aging. But um, I'm an early uh I go to bed early, but I'm an early riser. I'm up about four or five o'clock. By nine o'clock, I've done more than most people have done all day. Is that the army stand? I get a mixed up because somebody corrected me. I said the navy said that it's the no, no, it's the army, but I'm very alert and the more I've all been that way all my life, you know. But about two o'clock, I'm gonna crash because I've been up and moving around or whatever. But you know, as I've got older, not much keep me up because I don't worry about too much of anything. If I if something if I've given it to the Lord, I'm going to bed. My friends say, uh, God say, Um, it's no sense of all of us being up. I'm up, you go to bed. So I took that advice, and I said, God got it, I'm going to bed. So uh, not not much. Like, say, just drinking that drink after eight o'clock. I I can't hold it. I gotta get up. Okay, anybody else?

SPEAKER_00 38:53

Hot flashes, hot flashes. Oh, bless you. What keeps you up at night about three? That hot flash comes rolling through. I kick off the cover. I mean, for real. Uh but Anthony I love my sleep too. So uh I um am a daughter of a uh uh thoroughbred horse trainer, and he got up out of bed and rolled out at 5 30 in the morning every day. And so we had to roll out early in my family. So I'm used to getting up at with the sun, and it's my best time too, and by nine, so we better wrap this up on time because I'm gonna be getting sleepy at nine. Oh my god. Um, but yeah, I I mean, but in all seriousness, because that's just it's pretty much under control. Uh, because I will tell you that I am working on a series uh for better health for women, and we're talking about topics like menopause and um hair loss and weight loss. You know how we roll. And um one of the things I really did for myself was I did get uh compounded hormones. It it really worked for me, and so I did that for myself. And we had a really well-noted um OBGYN called Dr. Jessica Shepherd. And if you haven't um heard of her, she's amazing and a great speaker. And um, I said, you know, Dr. Shepherd, I actually got compounded hormones. She was very proud of you because that's important. So for me, I've done that to help with my overall health and better sleep and the hot flashes. So they haven't been that bad. And, you know, I did say I'm just about 60, so it's been a while. But um, I just wanted to say one thing about ageism, Mark Rita, because it's an interesting concept. And I know obviously a bit about your background, but I'm at a place now where you know, looking at different opportunities because one door may close, and I it's very interesting the concept of trying to go put yourself back out there if you don't have a personal connection and what that looks like. And that's the only way in for the most part. Very personal connection, right? Yeah, yeah, it's it's an interesting place to be on my end of the spectrum, ladies, just because I'm not, you know, I'm not quite at retirement age, and I do want to have some things and contribute. And yes, one day I Carol, I'm going for my 60th birthday to Paris, so I'm uh I'm gonna get there. Yeah, I'm going, I'm going back. Uh, I went there many years ago as a young girl, I haven't been back in a long time, so that I'm doing for me. So trying to find that bliss, but yeah, hot flashes. That those are real.

SPEAKER_02 41:30

I just like to uh one thing for you, Jeannie. Stick that leg out the bait. Stop it, stop it.

SPEAKER_01 41:39

Isn't that amazing? It works. It works America, it works. Put it out there, put it out there, I'm telling you. Sleep with less clothes on butt naked, butt naked. Okay, who's butt naked?

SPEAKER_00 41:58

Um I've already I kick off the covers and I uh now we can talk about well, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 42:06

I like that, and Antoinette, because I my husband, I think he gets the hot flash that night, but but either way, every night that one of my the left leg mostly is from under the cover hanging over the bed, and and I've been doing that for years. I just don't want to be confined like that, you know. Oh, it works, it really does.

SPEAKER_03 42:28

It works, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 42:29

But he's the one who gets the hot flash, and and uh kicking off all the cards I'm like, oh my god, are you going through the call? Are you going through the menopause? Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 42:39

Well, that may be another show, but I think men have menstrual cycles, I really do.

SPEAKER_05 42:44

They at least have the symptoms of it. Yes, okay, that's better said, but you know what? I mean, the whole menopause thing, it's like when I when I was going through a full throttle, I became a different person. I seriously did. And um, I I later apologized to my husband because it was like I was Dr. Jacqueline Mr. Hyde, and and I didn't really know you know a lot what was going on. Yeah, how old am I? Was information not around? But that's one of the reasons I started these disclamor girls, too. You know, it's like, yeah, we got to talk about this. Plus, I mean, what I need a mascara that's gonna stay on through these hot flashes. So, but anyway, anyway, all right, Miss Carol.

SPEAKER_06 43:23

Um, I would say based on um, I guess I have to reflect this based on my age. I think the theme that keeps me up at night is staying independent, um, being able to navigate life on my own, uh, not relying on uh I'm sorry, go ahead, Carol. Not relying on uh not relying on my children, um, not being a burden to my children, uh being able to make my own decisions financially. Life-changing, just being able to stand there, because I think that actually will cause most of our demise is inability to uh be able to stand around to be unable to make those decisions that we have already always made for our lives, uh, being able to just do those things that we want to do the way we want to do. And that's a hard thing um sometimes to give up and to uh keep you up at night is that can I still do it at my age? Can I still uh make those mental uh uh decisions and they're right for me? I'm not saying they're gonna be right for my children, I'm not saying it's gonna be right for my neighbor or my partner or whomever, right? But just having that ability to think things through and make the best decision for myself, right or wrong, but it is for me, the best decision for me, and having that clarity that I can do that and feel confident in making those decisions. So I think that's the thing that actually keeps me up at night, you know, just when I wake up in the morning, I am so thrilled to open my eyes up and to look in that room and see my things and being in my bed, being in my house, it's so rewarding, ladies, that you're not laying up in a nursing home, you're not getting else there to do whatever they have to do because it is not a fun place to be. It is not where you want to be. That is the reason why I'm a little crazy at going to exercise sometimes twice a day, doing stepa aerobics. I still do step aerobics, by the way, uh and and doing that and playing pickleball. So those are the things that um you know I work hard to do. They're gonna tell you they go to the gym, they regret going to gym, but they get up and they push it through.

SPEAKER_05 46:23

So um that's you know, and and uh you just touched on something, um, yeah, the whole the whole nursing home thing. Um it's getting worse by the day, you know, because we have a record number of people turning, you know, aging. And everybody wants to age in place, but even that is getting it getting pricey, and everybody can't age in place, and then you know, there's shortages across the country. Not speaking of hot flashes, there's shortages across the country of um, you know, of nursing homes, of caregivers. Um, even they're waiting, they're waitless now of some nursing homes, and even assistant living places. Um, yeah, it's getting trickier and trickier. And so, yeah, you're you're what a blessing to wake up to your home. And you know, and you're in every time every morning when I get up and I'm like, thank you, God, I can still walk, I can still talk. I have my mind. And uh, and and thank you, Jesus. And um, speaking of caregiving, I want to bring in my sister, Marsha. Hi, Marsha. Welcome, welcome. Thanks for joining us.

SPEAKER_03 47:28

I've been watching you guys, I'm loving it. Thank you. So I am feel, I have to say, I'm physically feeling some parts of it, but um, I feel like I'm trying to stay as positive and faithful in that everything is gonna be okay.

SPEAKER_05 47:54

That's right.

SPEAKER_03 47:55

And uh, so yes, yes, I am happy to be here.

SPEAKER_05 48:00

And there's mom's picture. You're in the dining room. Oh my god, I am Marcia. We were just talking about caregiving and stuff, and um, there are three of us. Uh Marcia. There she is. Uh yes, yes, yes. Marsha is the middle, I'm the middle child. Marsha's older, and uh, so you have an idea how old I am. I mean, I'm the middle child, Marsha's younger, and I'm older, right? And um, and so there were three of us. And so when my mother fell and you know, had to have brain surgery and all that, and they told us she would never walk again, she would never talk again, and all this. We knew better. We we didn't even cry. It's like, yeah, whatever. She lived and rehab for three months, had three different modalities of you know, uh therapy a day. Um, and she lived with my sister and her husband, and my brother and I would go travel there and visit there. And, you know, and I thank God, it's like she had us, you know what I'm saying? And up until like a month or two before she she left this world, she um, you know, she she we were taking care of her, especially my sister and her family there and you know, at their home. And um, and I have two wonderful stepchildren, but I don't have any biological children, and I'm always like, Oh, who's gonna take care of me? You know, you think about that when you don't have children. I mean, I know Jeannie, you you you and I have talked about that, and it's like, but then, like my mother told me years ago when we were putting my grandmother nurse at home. She's like, you know, I said, Oh my god, I gotta have kids because when you have visitors and nursing home, they treat you better. And I remember she says, She's like, just because you have children doesn't mean they're gonna look back at you, you know. And so the I said all that to say, Marsha, nowadays, you know, there's a lot of talk and a lot of uh processes for caregiving for the caregivers, you know what I'm saying? Self-care for the caregivers. And um, so I'm gonna have a lady on in a few weeks about that. Um, yeah, she has yeah, three people in her life she was caring for, but yeah, that's one of those things that keeps me up at night, you know, and uh to think about that. And uh let's see what else I have. A few more things I wanted to cover. Uh oh, and this might go along with what we were talking about with the caregiving and the nursing homes and stuff. What is society getting right or wrong about this aging population and how we're gonna be taking they're gonna take care of us, you know? It's getting trickier and trickier, and there are a ton of us, ton of us out there, you know. I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna front anybody, just call on anybody, and you know, if somebody wants to just say it out loud, it's up to you.

SPEAKER_02 50:37

Um well, I must say I have one child and he's a boy, and boys are different. Um my son, he'd be 35 uh this year, but he does not like to talk about anything has to do with separation from his mother, whether it be death or but he just don't want to talk about it, you know, and try to talk about how what you're gonna do with this whenever something happened. He said, I'll worry about it when it happens, right? Um, I experienced um with the new thing that I'm doing, I went to um assistant living, like you were saying. So I was trying to um I uh sell wellness products. And so this lady, I didn't know what she's planning on. She said, You got something that will get rid of my son. I like I didn't hear that. She said, He doesn't come see me, he's just waiting for the policy. That's what they that's a lot. These ke these I say children of they do not care about their loved ones, higher rate goes. And um, this one lady she left her stuff to her cat. I think died before she did, so everything went to the state. But guess what? The child came up there to the place demanding that he was possession of her things, but she she got him real good, didn't she? The cat, you know. So that's that's that's sad. It's really, really sad that that's going on. That they are so disconnected with their loved ones on that level, they don't want to be bothered, they're burdened, and uh half of these places don't treat them right. We all know that. Um, but you know, I don't know what the answer. I I I just tell my son that when I get to the point that I'm disabled, I'll come to California. But right now I can eat, I can bathe myself, I can, you know, I'll be like uh Carol, I'm gonna be 81 running around.

SPEAKER_05 52:30

And and of course, we know as we know, not all kids are the same, we know, but but you do hear stories. When I go visit my mom's uh cousin, who's I think 95, when I go home and I go visit her, her roommate is like she lights up when when we come in there because and she has kids, she has grandkids, but they they don't, you know, and so when a birthday runs around, rolls around like okay, I'm gonna send her something. You know, you just embrace and love people whenever and wherever you can, whenever you have that opportunity. And uh, you know, it it it gets um kind of tricky, and uh use that word tricky, but um, but yeah, and you know, they're you know, the young the younger generation, they catch a lot of heat about a lot of things, and um, you know, they're always saying that we're we were privileged and you know, because we had you know the pensions and we would stay on jobs forever, and they don't have it like that. Everybody's trying to find their way, you know, everybody's trying to find their way and and and do the best they can. And uh, and that's what, yeah, and that's what we're gonna do. That's we're gonna uh keep moving through this. But yeah, the the whole caregiving thing, um, and who's gonna care for me? That's what keeps me up sometimes at night.

SPEAKER_00 53:46

And yeah, it's difficult. Uh Mark we just shared I don't have um a biological uh child either. My husband uh does have a daughter, and we just found out she's going to have a baby. So grandma uh by default, no, by a blessing. Uh, and so that's a whole new chapter of my life that I never thought I would have because I tried very hard and it was not uh God's plan for me. And along my fertility journey many years ago, someone said to me, Well, they're not gonna a child's not gonna get to heaven, Jeannie. So just you know, it is your journey and that's what it's supposed to be. But I mentioned that I come from a very, very big family, and um, I'm the youngest of six, and I have uh, you know, 19 nieces and nephews, and 10, 10 grandnieces and nephews. So I too think about that, Mark. I'm like, which one of these beautiful girls are gonna help me when I because my parents lived to their 90s and were able to age at home. So um, you know, we don't know what we don't know, but um, Marquita, we're gonna have to trust that there'll be those that will take care of us and we'll do the best we can in the great examples that we see here today. So but it is it is concerning. And if I would say what society gets right or wrong, it we would be here a long, long time. Because unfortunately, based in my business, I've written a lot of stories and interviewed a lot of great people. Um, and everybody has a different opinion. And there are some things that are really great, and there's some things that are really broken. Um, and so we have to find peace with where we are and just be part of the solution, not the problem.

SPEAKER_05 55:26

Like that.

SPEAKER_00 55:26

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_05 55:27

Yeah, and and and you mentioned, Jeannie, about I didn't know that that you you you had issues too, you know, with with with conceiving, you know. Um, yeah, because when I was little, I didn't care about the career, I didn't care about the husband or the house. All I wanted was a baby, a little girl. I mean, I live for it, but um, and uh, but it just didn't work out. Then when I got married, my husband and I tried, you know, we did the artificial insulation and still nothing. So now over the years, you know, he'll he'll tell me because I have one niece, one nephew, and a great niece. And over the years, Jerry will say, you know, I'll say, Oh, I'm gonna put this one in. Um, I want to learn Mandarin and I want this one to learn Spanish, and I want this one in so many. He always like, he's like, he'll pull my coat on, baby. Those aren't your kids. Those aren't your kids. I feel like they're my kids, and so I treat them really well.

SPEAKER_03 56:15

I think they're your kids. I would just I think my daughter is your kid as well. There are so many days that I look at her and I think, oh my god, are you Lynn's child? You know, and she and she mentions that too. She says, I think I'm more like Aunt Lynn than I am you, mom, because I see I adopted my daughter. And um, and it it is just amazing how much they can sort of pick up. You wonder if it's nature or nurture, you know. Well, I'm definitely on the side of nurture as an adopted parent because it is definitely that. But to me, what's happening in the world and and the hatefulness, and I I had this. No, no, no, but I'm talking about, you know, my middle schoolers are coming into class with questions. And I always tell them that we just have to move from love to love. I like that, and and find somebody that somebody you may not love and and walk them across the street, you know, walk an older person across the street. Uh, help somebody at home, your grandmother, help them do something like wash clothes or or clean the bathroom or things like that. I think we need to get more into that and and we'll pay more attention to our senior citizens because they are just kind of like my I will be taking my orchestra students to a nursing home because they are just sitting there and they would love to have entertainment. So that's one of the things those are special projects that we can do.

SPEAKER_04 58:03

So I love that. Yeah, yeah. And that brings me to our next thing that uh someone had mentioned earlier.

SPEAKER_05 58:10

It's like with all of this, this in the world, um, and everything. Um, where do you find your joy? What brings you joy on a daily basis? Anybody, yeah, anybody can jump in, go first.

SPEAKER_06 58:24

Yeah, joy is an internal thing. Happiness is a material thing. So when you say what brings you joy, that joy has to be there. Okay, you it it is not buying something from the store because it's temporary. Um, and I think as I as I mentioned before, this is the wonderful part about being my age, is that you have a true understanding that what brings you joy, what makes you happy internally. And there is that inner peace that you get as you understand yourself. You can understand yourself, and joy is automatic. It is not a thing that somebody brings to you, it is internal and it's implanted as you go through life. Now, there's a lot of things out there that can make you happy, make you very, you know, mad, make you irate. I mean, you can use all of those different adjectives if you want, but you first have to understand the difference between joy and happiness. Okay, and I think once you grab a hold of that, um, you're all right. As you guys can tell before the broadcast, I'm kind of like openly all over. But you're a girl. Oh, it was the butt you know it's it's understanding yourself. That's what we keep here. And can I regress just a minute on your prior press question? And you say, what has society gotten wrong as far as senior technology? What'd you say?

SPEAKER_05 1:00:13

Oh, I'm I'm sorry you fell out just a little bit. What was doing a horrible job at technology?

SPEAKER_06 1:00:17

I I said I would like to regress uh a little bit on your prior questions, like what has society, what has been wrong, and I think what they have really got wrong, and they really, really need to fix it as fast as they can, is having elders and understanding technology. Okay. Now they have turned around and says, we don't want your cash. So if you can't deal with it on the on your eye on your phone, if you can't deal with it on some kind of app, if you can't do this, and a lot of the seniors cannot deal with that. That is we regress and go back and sit on a couch, you know, become a part of society, and it is aging us. And now we're sitting somewhere depressed in a black neck wall.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:26

Right. That that is so true. Because just like a lot of the uh, when I'm going to politics, you know, a lot of the social security offices are closing and stuff, and then that that means you have to do a lot of stuff online. A lot of senior citizens cannot do that online, right? And then plus for me, it's the human connection um to go to an office, to pick up a phone and talk to somebody. So, yes, you you're hitting something right now. And um, on a sideboard to that, um, you know, I think next week or the week after, I'm having an AI specialist come on and talk about basic stuff that you can do to stay relevant, you know what I'm saying? But but overall, the AI thing, I mean, overall the technology, yeah, that's a huge, huge problem. Huge problem. Yeah, anyone else about uh AI or technology or finding your joy, but thank you for that, Carol.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:23

Oh, yeah, you know, uh Carol is gonna be my best friend. I already figured it out.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:29

She's gonna be my best friend.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:31

I'm gonna go to the bar with her, yeah. And just piggybacking off of her, I just love what you said. Joy is internal, you know. I'm all I'm the woman in the mirror, and I I started that for a personal reason, but what I found out your joy exhumerates outward and with inward, outward, right? So I what I'm seeing is that people you know would often ask, is your smile real? Or you and I just tell them that when I get up every morning, my objective is to be happy. Now, when I leave this house, which I don't leave the house anymore, I'm here, but when I used to go out in corporate America and I leave my house, whatever happened after I leave here, it's on me because I don't let somebody take what I built up that morning from me. So it is you just gotta invest in that. You gotta just, you know, people like I don't know what you're all happy about. Well, I'm like, why are you? You mean you have food on the table, you this and that the other. But I don't, I guess uh Carol, you're probably gonna agree with this. I just don't uh feed energy into negativity. That's one that's a key thing there because before you realize it, that negativity affects you. It really affects you whether you want not. So now I'm not saying everything is perfect and all that. I'm not saying that, but you have to really move yourself to the direction of positivity uh in your life. People, uh, of course, we know people can be disappointing, but that's where it got to come back to you. I just fight for my peace now. I nobody, nobody, and you know, I'm I'm I'm not moved or shaken by that because I I'm investing. I get up at five o'clock for a region.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:13

Yeah, so it's almost your best like genies, yeah. Yeah, I would just say that all of what you've said is so true, and um, I have a strong faith too that my parents instilled in me, um, and that plays a part of it. And and Marquita's known me a long time, and I I do try to be joyful and all of that, but on a completely physical level, if I wake up in the morning and one of my roses has bloomed, and it's early in the morning, too, like you, Antoinette, and I look at that beautiful blossom and it has a little bit of a scent, and I just think, well, there that's something beautiful in the world. My dad grew roses, it reminds me of him, it connects me to him. He always had roses going around the barn, and so on a it's it's internal, but that is an outward extension too. That brings me back to my parents' childhood memories and to see just a beautiful blossom open up and then it withers away, right? And it goes away, and that's part of the life cycle. And then I looked out there and it's starting to rebloom a little bit, and I'll prune it, and so it's cyclical, but that is a physical manifestation of what brings me joy because it has to start internally, but there have there has to be some tangibles, true happiness. Oh, yeah. Oh, definitely, definitely agree.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:30

I love that. Yeah, yeah, it's a little things. Anyone else on finding joy? Okay, all right, all right. Uh, you guys have just lifted my my spirit, it's lifted my soul so much, and um, and and and as well as the people who are um out there watching, uh J Dodge Entertainment. Great discussion. We know who that is. Um, Phyllis um recommended a book, Karen. Well by Jean Jeannie Peter King. Um, I'm gonna have to check out that book. Thank you so much for that, Phyllis. And um, yeah, so yeah, so yeah, my husband is in the comments there because I told him go. So he he's he went to uh to the sports bar and I said, I don't care, you better tune in. Do your job, Jerry. Do your job.

SPEAKER_04 1:06:24

That's right, that's right.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:26

Oh my god. Um, this has been so good. Anybody also have anything else they want to contribute that we didn't cover?

SPEAKER_03 1:06:33

And um I have one thing to add, two things to add really quickly regarding technology and trying to find a place that can give you the information you need. Um people don't know that school districts offer very cheap classes on things like that. So they will have a building that you go to and they provide professional development, but they also develop uh uh offer special classes for the community, and so there's an opportunity to go in, take a class, and it's very cheap usually, and I'm talking like $50, and you might have multiple classes, and um, and it's a good way to learn about the latest technology because they have it built into the system already. So I would check universities and I would check local school districts about that, and libraries have great classes.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:37

Absolutely, yes. Your local library has that is an excellent suggestion.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:42

Thank you so much. I'm gonna do some research on that because um I was talking to one of one of my co-authors, Cheryl, in Atlanta, um, and she is going back to school for um a master's in um African American studies. And I said, Oh, what are you gonna do with that? And she's like, and she's in our field, you know, Genie News, and she's like, Oh, nothing. I just want to learn more about it. And she says, I don't have to pay for it. And I forget what it's one of the state schools. I don't know how many state schools there are in in Georgia. But she says, people over, I think she's at the age of 62 or 65 or something, you get either, you know, some some states will offer, uh, let you come back for free and you know, for a couple of glasses, and some charge really, really uh minimal. She says, the only thing is you can't register for your classes until after the paying customers have taken, you know, done their classes. But I'm gonna look at that. Thank you so much, Marsha and Jeannie, for that because dang, that's a great idea. Some classes, and especially if they're discounted or free, which is better, you know, uh, just keep learning. And here again, that's something else that will help stave off dementia. And um, thank God for all the information that's coming out there, right? It's like eat this, don't eat that, um, keep it moving, um, you know, do puzzles or whatever. I just, you know, we just in you know, inhale all that information to um extend our lifespan so we can have a you know, if we are one of those who are blessed to live, look at that, Carol 81. Oh my god. That's all our that's our goal, right there, right? It's like that's our goal.

SPEAKER_04 1:09:23

What about your parents?

SPEAKER_05 1:09:24

How they are how long did they did they live live long also? I'm just curious. Your parents, Carol?

SPEAKER_06 1:09:32

I you know what? My parents, and and you have to keep it in the age category. Uh you know, you know the reason why 65 is the magical age, right? Uh, as far as social security, because they didn't think we're gonna live to 65 and they're finding out that we're doing a real good job of living longer. Um, so I would say my parents, if they were in my time, probably would have lived longer, but because of the stress that was involved, now keep in mind my age, guys, okay?

SPEAKER_05 1:10:09

That's so true.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:11

Because of the stress that was involved, right, and the things they had to endure, you know, just to be in with the family. And so I would say their life was shortened.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:24

That is so true. So true.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:27

And I would one of the things I would also like to share with you guys is when you get in a certain age, you have a better understanding of stress. Stress is one of those words that people talk about, but you don't really know when you have stress, you don't understand it, you don't feel it, um, explain it to you. So if there was anything out there um creator that you want to talk about is and this is just a it's just a slight suggestion, put something out there to tell us how to identify stress.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:13

How what? I'm sorry. Yeah, that's a great idea. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:19

Stress. How do you know when you have it?

SPEAKER_05 1:11:22

That's a great idea.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:23

Um and how to eliminate it. Um thank God I'm in my 80s, and I have a better understanding of that.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:33

Wow.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:34

I have a better understanding of why you wake up at three o'clock in the morning because of stress.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:39

That's so true. That's right.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:41

I have a better understanding of why you have the headaches, I have a better understanding who to put in your life and who to take out of your life because of stress. A lot of that, but to understand stress would help you live happier and bring you joy. So, you know, I think that's the thing that we talk about. Everybody mentioned conversation. But what does it what is it? What is animal calling stress?

SPEAKER_05 1:12:16

That is a great topic. Thank you so much for that. Because it is a silent, silent killer. If you guys haven't uh already looked at it, I did a podcast, I think last year, about broken heart syndrome. And you know, I went in, you know, I do my research, but when I first heard that, I was thinking, okay, you if you lose a mate, which is part of it. If you've been married for 50 years or you lose your your your your your sibling or your child or whatever, you know, and that's part of it. But a huge part of it is stress too, broken heart syndrome. And so um, so if you haven't had a chance, go look at that podcast. It was a really good podcast. I interviewed the doctor who who's the head of the study. She was at she's at Mount Sinai um in LA. Um, but yeah, you don't think about those things. Uh I was running around here today doing stuff and and I kept taking deep breaths because I knew that I was under stress because I'm like, I knew it, and I knew it. And I'm like, I gotta watch my heart, I gotta do this. And and so I just start jumping up and down and just you know, doing some air punches and just doing my thing just to bring me down and to relax because you it will bite you, and you don't even realize it. Right, you don't man, let me tell you, this has been oh my god, I don't want to end this conversation. It's been such an eye-opener. Um, it brought me joy, it made me think, it inspired me, it entertained me of all of the things. And um, I just appreciate every one of you women. I totally, totally thank you so much for coming on and sharing all of these wonderful blessings um with us. You guys are amazing. And um my gosh, any closing thoughts anymore? Anyone? Any closing more closing thoughts? Last time, last time, going once, quite a twice.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:10

You know, believe it or not, I used to be very quiet, very, very quiet, didn't say a word. Charles can attest to that, but now you can't shut me up, as you can tell. Okay, okay. Is my peace, um, the love of the Lord and love your children, you know, because what what I'm seeing happening around me, and I'm in Dallas, and it's St. Houston and you know, California. Uh, what is happening is uh suicide rate is at an all-time high. And a lot of it is uh because they don't have a purpose in their lives, you know. They you know, we can be harsh on building them up or building them down, and we we've lost that. We don't we don't motivate them to be all that they can be because they're not being what you want them to be. Let them be what they want to be, so right and support them, you know. So I just want to leave with the parents, uh uh you know, invest in your children because they're gonna invest in you and the grandchildren, invest in the grandchildren. It's just it's it's a it's a relationship, it is so you know, forget about what the world is doing. We know the world's kind of going in a as my mom would say a hill, uh, hell in a handbasket or something. But we if we individually take responsibility, I think we can make a difference. So I'm gonna leave that.

SPEAKER_05 1:15:38

That is so true. What is that phrase? Um, uh touch one. Oh, teach one, yeah. It just takes one person, and and I try to do that when I meet some young, young, young, young people, and I'm like, I I try to uplift them and I hope and pray that they don't look at me as the ageless auntie, you know. That's okay, that's okay. That's okay. Oh my gosh, you know, uh, yeah, yeah, that's a badge of honor, an ageless auntie. But uh thank you. Yeah, you're right. We yeah, you we have to look after them because there's a there are so many of them, they don't have direction, you know, and sometimes too, it helps coming from other people besides the parents or the grandparents. Yes, yes, it helps. So that's why every chance I get, I'm like, hey, hey, and um, so yeah, so okay, as I'm gonna talk like here. I go. I'm gonna close it out for real this time, but uh, thank you again. Oh Marcia, Marsha, you have something else?

SPEAKER_03 1:16:34

One more thing that piggybacks on uh Antoinette, um, and that is take care. We need to teach all of us, all of us, even but mostly the children, how to handle our emotions. Yeah, I think if we can handle our emotions, then there are uh we're not gonna see as many of those response, those types of ugly responses that we see sometimes. Yeah, I agree. Yeah, so I mean, and that keeps us at peace if we can handle it. I mean, just quick example. I had two teachers this week, uh, because something didn't go perfectly the way they wanted it, they let us know. And it was not very, and I'm fine with letting me know, but it's the way you come to it, yes, and so you know, I can tell when somebody is really stressed out, and then but they're moving strictly from their emotions, so we can learn to control that, and like you were saying, you got to make your peace the most important thing of the day. That gets you through, and for me, it's faith as well.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:45

Oh, yeah, oh yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:47

I'm I'm playing Kurt Franklin moving from one school to the next every day. I'm like, okay, as soon as I get in the car, turn on my Kurt Franklin. You're the reason why I sing that is my song all the way through from one school to the next. So that is that that peace is that peace.

SPEAKER_05 1:18:05

So that's right, finding your joy and your peace. Yes, yeah, and just keep spreading kindness because you know you never know, especially with the mental illness, like we we kind of touched on that. Yeah, you don't know what's on somebody's mind, you don't know. And so you just have to be aware of everything, and just as my mother used to say, when I was like you remember, Marsha Mama said, kill them with kindness. It's like kill them with kindness, you just have to do that. You have to wipe what you know what wipe, you know, um tiptoe, tiptoe through the tool is for real, because you never know what's going on. Yeah, yeah, true.

SPEAKER_04 1:18:42

All right, this has been wonderful. Oh, and look at that. We have enjoy meeting all of you ladies.

SPEAKER_01 1:18:48

Like me.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:49

I'm coming, Carol! I'm coming. It was so enlightening and to be able to uh show many wonderful things, and thank you for having me on your your program, and I truly enjoyed this evening.

SPEAKER_04 1:19:06

It was like oh my god, I'm so glad I kept sweating her, and like I said, I had to slide it for a DM. I had no idea she was 81. I just loved her vibe.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:19

Oh my god, thank you. Persistence pays, Marquita. Persistent persistence pays. You know, and that journalism, you if you don't ask, you don't receive.

SPEAKER_05 1:19:29

That's what I try to tell you. Thank you for watching. My publishing partner, Jermaine is gonna get me if I don't, you know, ask. Oh, yes, there's this is our Amazon best-selling book, A to the Sglamour Girls Reflections on Aging. It came out in December of 2023. Yes. And there were 12 of us, um, well, 13, 14 of us, including the the four, the my uh girlfriend Pat um battle, who wrote the forward, and she ended up writing her own chapter about the ageless women who influenced her, which is a beautiful thing. Our book is on Amazon, uh, Age of Climber Girls Reflections on Aging. And the good news is we're working on a second volume, volume two. Woo-hoo! Wow. That's coming out in March to coincide with Women's History Month. So we have a few slots open. So if anyone wants to write their chapter, and um the women said um they were looking forward to being in the book because now when the grandkids come over, they can pick up the book and say, Oh, grandma grandma wrote a book, and then the pictures in the book, and you know, all of the um social media, your bio, all of that. And we had so much fun. We we did some um, you know, some of uh some media events, and we just we went live on on Facebook and everything, and we read from our chapters. It was a good time, and so now I'm ready to have a good time with the next set of co-authors. And here again, it's all about uplifting, just like this. I love talking, aging. You know, I call it the ageless chat fest. And so this is what we did today, and here it is in a book. So if anyone's interested in being one of the co-authors, email us at info at agelessglamourgirls.com. That's info at agelessglamourgirls.com. And by the way, that's the same email address if you want to be a guest on the show. Um, we would love to have you. We love hearing different voices, and uh, and it's just fun. It's fun, and we go deep as you guys can see, and and we learn from each other. And uh, oh my god, so much inspiration, so much inspiration. So, with that said, oh my god, I love you, ladies, and I'm gonna converse.

SPEAKER_00 1:21:43

I should go to bed, Mark Rita. Markita, we have any sleep.

SPEAKER_07 1:21:52

I'm sorry, you went over your time. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:56

You're healthy, aging, and we'll read the bed real soon. Love you guys. Thank you.